I have already done a "ones we love" blog, and this could potentially become a series. If that is the case, this would be the second part of that series.
So, here's my question: Why do we hurt the ones we love?
There are a billion answers that spring to my mind, but I can't place much credence on any of them. It doesn't make sense. Why would you want to hurt someone you love?
That's just it. You don't. People never intend to hurt their loved ones. What I think actually happens is that the people we love have such high expectations and hope for and with us that, because we are doomed to fail at least once in our lives, we will end up letting them down. And that hurts.
Another answer I have come up with is that we hurt the ones we love because we don't realize we love them. How many times have you not realized how much you love someone until after they have left? Why is that what it takes? Why can we never truly appreciate what we have when we have it? See previous paragraph for the answer.
So, what can we do to remedy the hurt we may have caused? There is no one right answer to this. I wish there was some kind of pill or drink that will take it away, but most often those things just mask the hurt.
This seems like a really pessimistic view of human relationships. It's not. On the other side of hurt there is hope and reconciliation. On the other side of hurt, there is a great potential for something greater than before. I highly doubt it will be an immediate return. Like most things, it takes time.
So, here's my question: Why do we hurt the ones we love?
There are a billion answers that spring to my mind, but I can't place much credence on any of them. It doesn't make sense. Why would you want to hurt someone you love?
That's just it. You don't. People never intend to hurt their loved ones. What I think actually happens is that the people we love have such high expectations and hope for and with us that, because we are doomed to fail at least once in our lives, we will end up letting them down. And that hurts.
Another answer I have come up with is that we hurt the ones we love because we don't realize we love them. How many times have you not realized how much you love someone until after they have left? Why is that what it takes? Why can we never truly appreciate what we have when we have it? See previous paragraph for the answer.
So, what can we do to remedy the hurt we may have caused? There is no one right answer to this. I wish there was some kind of pill or drink that will take it away, but most often those things just mask the hurt.
This seems like a really pessimistic view of human relationships. It's not. On the other side of hurt there is hope and reconciliation. On the other side of hurt, there is a great potential for something greater than before. I highly doubt it will be an immediate return. Like most things, it takes time.
If you disagree with me, let me know. If you agree with me, let me know. If you have vast seas of insight on this topic, share it, please. :)
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